Good and bad gatekeeping
Gatekeeping is the practice of inventing additional criteria for a label. Think “you’re not a true metalhead if you don’t like Maiden”, or “you’re not really a parent if your …
Category: Self-love
Dear straight man
Your attraction to women is a good thing. Not only is it vital to human propagation, it’s a vital part of you. Female closeness is one of your passions, and …
Desire, mutated
Desire is identity. We’re composed, in no small part, of the things we wish and long for. Whether we fulfill them or not, desires are staples of a sound human …
Programming advice
As a parent, you’re in charge of your child’s initial programming. You’re inevitably going to screw something up. You’re only human. That’s why the most important feature you can program …
Tough love
On the issue of raising children, I believe in tough love. But there’s more to that concept than “be tough, but for loving reasons”. The way I see it, the …
Body positivity
I’m not sure that body positivity works for everyone. It may well be that some people never learn to love the body in the mirror. I’m speaking to those people …
The most harmful misconception
is that the harshest truths of life must be taught harshly. The opposite is true. We should reserve our warmest, tenderest love for those we teach of death, cruelty, and …
God’s love
A God who created us and loves us wouldn’t need us to worship it. It wouldn’t be bothered if we believed in a different god. A God who created us …